Issue: Recently, my attention was reeled in by an individual on tumblr. whose relationship has overcome a large amount of discrimination against her sexuality and even more about the fact that it is a long distance relationship. The fact that she must go through a long distance relationship, in itself is an accomplishment seeing as how it has been fairly successful from what I can see in her posts, but to add the aspect of discrimination against her sexuality (she is a lesbian woman), on top of the hardships of her not being able to see her girlfriend on a regular basis, makes it all the more difficult. The question I have come to from this, is, are we really as accepting as we tell others to be? Why is it such a big deal that a woman has an intimate relationship with another woman. Or man with man.
Over the past few months, I have noticed an incline in her posts about her girlfriend as well as the negative comments they receive. A user by the name of railroadsoftware has replied to her posts with crude opinions of her relationship, such as “I wish you didn’t think being gay was okay.” and, “you should be ashamed”. I personally don’t agree with the users comments. He very well could have just scrolled past the post, unfollowed the user and moved on with his day, but the fact that he chose to be negative about it and quite possibly upset the poor girl, just baffles me. What kind of world do we live in where we tell our youth to “accept everyone”, yet go in a whole other direction and corrupt them with absurd stereotypes and hateful comments so easily slurred without any remorse or concern about who it effects and how it may do so. There have been hate crimes against gay people, as well as people of different race, etc. and for what? What does it do? All it does is make the world a darker place for the families that have to go through that remorse. I applaud this individual for not letting railroadsoftware dictate who she can love. She replies in the most dignified ways each time he or anyone else attacks her with hateful opinions. To the comment, “You should be ashamed”, she replied, “Who are you to tell me who I can and cannot love. What if it was myself who was bashing you for loving a woman, (assuming you have a significant other)? I am proud to love Fran, and will love her until the day I die. Love has no guidelines. Get a life.”
There was an exchange of comments back and forth, others defending her, as well as a few other users who took the opposing side.
In the end, I don’t agree with the fact that there was such a heated discussion against the lifestyle she chooses to lead. Has society really come to the barbaric banter about sexuality? It has nothing to do with their individual lives, nor does the way the choose to live theirs have anything to do with hers.
To go back to my original question, “Are we really as accepting as we tell others to be?”, I could go on and on about it in many ways, but I believe that society is very hypocritical in one way or another especially on social media where you can hide behind an anonymous comment, where you have no reality of confrontation.